http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/ Free Information and Advice on Paruresis (Shy Bladder) Wed, 19 Nov 2008 04:30:46 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.6.2 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-7 bassdog Wed, 14 May 2008 19:42:16 +0000 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-7 Hey Matrix. Here are some techniques I incorporate for my Parunesis. I also take narcotics for chronic pain management so it's like a double whammy!!! Anyway, at home I find it hard to start the flow for a couple of minutes so I almost always, sit instead of stand, which helps with muscle tension. It also helps me just to relax in general. I also always read a magazine, and if I find myself "clenching up" I start to read out loud. It doesn't usually have to be really loud (that others can hear) but just loud enough where I'm focusing on the reading material and not the micturition. I realize it is A LOT harder in public so what I try and do is visualize myself in another place or try to remember song lyrics. I call it my "internal jukebox". I'll play a song back in my head and try to focus on the lyrics or the guitar or the bass, drums, etc. This helps a lot but I still have problems in certain situations, i.e. drug test, doctor's offics, etc. Just KEEP TRYING anything that works! You can do it! Also, try to remember that nobody REALLY cares what your doing anyway. I know sometimes it's hard to get yourself to believe that a lot of times, but they really don't! Positive reinforcement and practice are the 2 best things, I believe. Hope this helps you out even somewhat, as I have lived this "hell" for most of my life. I think it really just comes down to relaxing and mind over matter. Hey Matrix. Here are some techniques I incorporate for my Parunesis. I also take narcotics for chronic pain management so it’s like a double whammy!!! Anyway, at home I find it hard to start the flow for a couple of minutes so I almost always, sit instead of stand, which helps with muscle tension. It also helps me just to relax in general. I also always read a magazine, and if I find myself “clenching up” I start to read out loud. It doesn’t usually have to be really loud (that others can hear) but just loud enough where I’m focusing on the reading material and not the micturition. I realize it is A LOT harder in public so what I try and do is visualize myself in another place or try to remember song lyrics. I call it my “internal jukebox”. I’ll play a song back in my head and try to focus on the lyrics or the guitar or the bass, drums, etc. This helps a lot but I still have problems in certain situations, i.e. drug test, doctor’s offics, etc. Just KEEP TRYING anything that works! You can do it! Also, try to remember that nobody REALLY cares what your doing anyway. I know sometimes it’s hard to get yourself to believe that a lot of times, but they really don’t! Positive reinforcement and practice are the 2 best things, I believe. Hope this helps you out even somewhat, as I have lived this “hell” for most of my life. I think it really just comes down to relaxing and mind over matter.

]]> http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-5 matrix Sat, 02 Feb 2008 21:30:12 +0000 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-5 Hello, i have a problem called Parunesis, and i'm really worried about the problem. Maybe there is some physical or mental exercises that i can do to help myself..? Hello, i have a problem called Parunesis, and i’m really worried about the problem. Maybe there is some physical or mental exercises that i can do to help myself..?

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