Comments on: Basic rules for helping yourself http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/ Free Information and Advice on Paruresis (Shy Bladder) Thu, 01 Apr 2010 07:24:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: James -London http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-15 James -London Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:57:52 +0000 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-15 Hi thanks for this advice.. I have suffered for almost 10 years now (starting around 16).. it's really annoying. I know I'm not the only one, and I have told some friends about it, (it's not really that embarrassing), and some don't even believe me! I have no idea what caused it, but I remember the exact moment I felt it first- at a gig somewhere in a crowded toilet. I think I felt that I was being watched, maybe judged, perhaps I was taking some time to 'go'. anyway, since then I have found it incredibly difficult to pee even if I think someone might come into the toilet.. I sometimes find my bladded literally cutting off mid flow when someone comes into the toilet. it's terrible!-possibly dangerous for my health. The funniest thing I've done is tell myself (whilst alone, and anxious in the toilet) that this is the last 30 seconds I have before leaving on a spacecraft to the moon.. and if I don't pee then I wont have another chance for weeks- and for some reason my body/brain believes it. Another thing I've imagined is that I'm the last person on earth, or that the toilet door is being guarded by a bouncer.. It's all jokes really, but it works... I just wish I didn't have to do it. I hope they'll find a cure, or some real treatment, but for now I'll practise until it's improved. - I may even see a councillor. Anyway, good luck to all those other pee shy people out there! Hi thanks for this advice.. I have suffered for almost 10 years now (starting around 16).. it’s really annoying. I know I’m not the only one, and I have told some friends about it, (it’s not really that embarrassing), and some don’t even believe me! I have no idea what caused it, but I remember the exact moment I felt it first- at a gig somewhere in a crowded toilet. I think I felt that I was being watched, maybe judged, perhaps I was taking some time to ‘go’. anyway, since then I have found it incredibly difficult to pee even if I think someone might come into the toilet.. I sometimes find my bladded literally cutting off mid flow when someone comes into the toilet. it’s terrible!-possibly dangerous for my health.
The funniest thing I’ve done is tell myself (whilst alone, and anxious in the toilet) that this is the last 30 seconds I have before leaving on a spacecraft to the moon.. and if I don’t pee then I wont have another chance for weeks- and for some reason my body/brain believes it. Another thing I’ve imagined is that I’m the last person on earth, or that the toilet door is being guarded by a bouncer.. It’s all jokes really, but it works… I just wish I didn’t have to do it.

I hope they’ll find a cure, or some real treatment, but for now I’ll practise until it’s improved. – I may even see a councillor. Anyway, good luck to all those other pee shy people out there!

]]> By: bassdog http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-7 bassdog Wed, 14 May 2008 19:42:16 +0000 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-7 Hey Matrix. Here are some techniques I incorporate for my Parunesis. I also take narcotics for chronic pain management so it's like a double whammy!!! Anyway, at home I find it hard to start the flow for a couple of minutes so I almost always, sit instead of stand, which helps with muscle tension. It also helps me just to relax in general. I also always read a magazine, and if I find myself "clenching up" I start to read out loud. It doesn't usually have to be really loud (that others can hear) but just loud enough where I'm focusing on the reading material and not the micturition. I realize it is A LOT harder in public so what I try and do is visualize myself in another place or try to remember song lyrics. I call it my "internal jukebox". I'll play a song back in my head and try to focus on the lyrics or the guitar or the bass, drums, etc. This helps a lot but I still have problems in certain situations, i.e. drug test, doctor's offics, etc. Just KEEP TRYING anything that works! You can do it! Also, try to remember that nobody REALLY cares what your doing anyway. I know sometimes it's hard to get yourself to believe that a lot of times, but they really don't! Positive reinforcement and practice are the 2 best things, I believe. Hope this helps you out even somewhat, as I have lived this "hell" for most of my life. I think it really just comes down to relaxing and mind over matter. Hey Matrix. Here are some techniques I incorporate for my Parunesis. I also take narcotics for chronic pain management so it’s like a double whammy!!! Anyway, at home I find it hard to start the flow for a couple of minutes so I almost always, sit instead of stand, which helps with muscle tension. It also helps me just to relax in general. I also always read a magazine, and if I find myself “clenching up” I start to read out loud. It doesn’t usually have to be really loud (that others can hear) but just loud enough where I’m focusing on the reading material and not the micturition. I realize it is A LOT harder in public so what I try and do is visualize myself in another place or try to remember song lyrics. I call it my “internal jukebox”. I’ll play a song back in my head and try to focus on the lyrics or the guitar or the bass, drums, etc. This helps a lot but I still have problems in certain situations, i.e. drug test, doctor’s offics, etc. Just KEEP TRYING anything that works! You can do it! Also, try to remember that nobody REALLY cares what your doing anyway. I know sometimes it’s hard to get yourself to believe that a lot of times, but they really don’t! Positive reinforcement and practice are the 2 best things, I believe. Hope this helps you out even somewhat, as I have lived this “hell” for most of my life. I think it really just comes down to relaxing and mind over matter.

]]> By: matrix http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/comment-page-1/#comment-5 matrix Sat, 02 Feb 2008 21:30:12 +0000 http://www.paruresisadvice.com/2006/advice/basic-rules-for-helping-yourself/#comment-5 Hello, i have a problem called Parunesis, and i'm really worried about the problem. Maybe there is some physical or mental exercises that i can do to help myself..? Hello, i have a problem called Parunesis, and i’m really worried about the problem. Maybe there is some physical or mental exercises that i can do to help myself..?

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