Comments for Paruresis Advice

Comment on Female paruretic advice and information by candy

candy — Thu, 01 Apr 2010 07:24:08 +0000

I’m20 and I also had this problem,’cause my middle school’s bathroom even hadn’t a door,and once I was frghtened by someone
rushing towards me.Then I went to college,I
felt safe and I could go.However,after an unpleasant trip,I couldnot go when there was a lot of people.Back to my schoolyard,I find it strange that when I went to the public toliet in my dormitory,I can go easily ,but I may feel a little hard when I went to the toliet next to the classroom.Everytime I go when few classmates are in the toliet , I will take a deep breath and say to myself “it’s safe “if I find it hard.Usually I can go but it really
takes some time.

Comment on Female paruretic advice and information by Home Remedies

Home Remedies — Thu, 01 Oct 2009 01:41:52 +0000

I have a friend that has this, I didn’t realize how serious it is and how much it effects her life! thanks

Comment on An Introduction to Paruresis by Paul

Paul — Sat, 26 Sep 2009 01:14:23 +0000

Jerica: that’s definitely normal, and its pretty absurd that they’d think otherwise

Comment on Female paruretic advice and information by Ross Handley

Ross Handley — Sat, 29 Aug 2009 05:39:20 +0000

Hi, I’m not sure what country you are in but there is a very good International Paruresis Association with a large Womens Group.

You can recover from this Social Anxiety Disorder, especially as you are young.

Ross ( Sydney, AP Support Group – Oz)

Comment on An Introduction to Paruresis by P

Wed, 05 Aug 2009 19:30:27 +0000

This must be so helpful

Comment on Female paruretic advice and information by pixelpixie86

pixelpixie86 — Wed, 13 May 2009 22:14:21 +0000

I’m 16 and I’ve had problems with paruresis for about ten years. I don’t really know where it came from, and sometimes it feels like it’s getting worse. When I was little, I could go with my mom or my sisters watching me, but I couldn’t go if they could hear me. After a few years, I couldn’t go if anyone could see me and I still couldn’t go if anyone could hear me (it’s still like that.) Whenever we go out and use a public bathroom, I usually say, “I don’t really have to go,” and hold it until we get back home. But sometimes when I say that, my mom insists that I try to go (at which point, I begin feeling a little nervous.) If it’s just me, my mom, and my sisters in the bathroom, my mom turns on the water so they can’t hear me, but if other people are in the room, she doesn’t because she’s trying to stay out of other peoples’ way. We went out to eat just a few months ago and we used the bathroom there. I really had to go and thought that I would be able to; but just as I was ready to start going, somebody went into the stall next to the one I was in. I was trying really hard, but I just couldn’t pee! I think it was mostly because it was really quiet and I didn’t want anyone to hear me. (But I was also pretty nervous with a complete stranger next to me.) After a few minutes, my mom told me to hurry up. Finally, I realized that I wasn’t going to be able to pee, and just gave up trying and held it until we went home. I was just wondering-are there other girls out there who can’t go if people can hear them? And if so, could you give me some advice on how to make it stop?

Comment on Basic rules for helping yourself by James -London

James -London — Mon, 02 Mar 2009 20:57:52 +0000

Hi thanks for this advice.. I have suffered for almost 10 years now (starting around 16).. it’s really annoying. I know I’m not the only one, and I have told some friends about it, (it’s not really that embarrassing), and some don’t even believe me! I have no idea what caused it, but I remember the exact moment I felt it first- at a gig somewhere in a crowded toilet. I think I felt that I was being watched, maybe judged, perhaps I was taking some time to ‘go’. anyway, since then I have found it incredibly difficult to pee even if I think someone might come into the toilet.. I sometimes find my bladded literally cutting off mid flow when someone comes into the toilet. it’s terrible!-possibly dangerous for my health.
The funniest thing I’ve done is tell myself (whilst alone, and anxious in the toilet) that this is the last 30 seconds I have before leaving on a spacecraft to the moon.. and if I don’t pee then I wont have another chance for weeks- and for some reason my body/brain believes it. Another thing I’ve imagined is that I’m the last person on earth, or that the toilet door is being guarded by a bouncer.. It’s all jokes really, but it works… I just wish I didn’t have to do it.

I hope they’ll find a cure, or some real treatment, but for now I’ll practise until it’s improved. – I may even see a councillor. Anyway, good luck to all those other pee shy people out there!

Comment on An Introduction to Paruresis by Jerica

Jerica — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 03:51:49 +0000

I am so glad that I came across this website. I have to take random drug screens for drug court and I’ll feel like I am about to wet my pants and as soon as I go in the bathroom with the lady that is observing I cant go. i have tried running water, putting my hand under the water, thinking of other stuff, pretending she isnt, there, just about everything i can think of. and not doing a test is just like failing and i could be facing 2 years in prison because they cant understand that i cant go while someone is watching.

Comment on Basic rules for helping yourself by bassdog

bassdog — Wed, 14 May 2008 19:42:16 +0000

Hey Matrix. Here are some techniques I incorporate for my Parunesis. I also take narcotics for chronic pain management so it’s like a double whammy!!! Anyway, at home I find it hard to start the flow for a couple of minutes so I almost always, sit instead of stand, which helps with muscle tension. It also helps me just to relax in general. I also always read a magazine, and if I find myself “clenching up” I start to read out loud. It doesn’t usually have to be really loud (that others can hear) but just loud enough where I’m focusing on the reading material and not the micturition. I realize it is A LOT harder in public so what I try and do is visualize myself in another place or try to remember song lyrics. I call it my “internal jukebox”. I’ll play a song back in my head and try to focus on the lyrics or the guitar or the bass, drums, etc. This helps a lot but I still have problems in certain situations, i.e. drug test, doctor’s offics, etc. Just KEEP TRYING anything that works! You can do it! Also, try to remember that nobody REALLY cares what your doing anyway. I know sometimes it’s hard to get yourself to believe that a lot of times, but they really don’t! Positive reinforcement and practice are the 2 best things, I believe. Hope this helps you out even somewhat, as I have lived this “hell” for most of my life. I think it really just comes down to relaxing and mind over matter.

Comment on Basic rules for helping yourself by matrix

matrix — Sat, 02 Feb 2008 21:30:12 +0000

Hello, i have a problem called Parunesis, and i’m really worried about the problem. Maybe there is some physical or mental exercises that i can do to help myself..?